SETTING BOUNDARIES.

What are boundaries?

Is it something you set for others to follow?

Is it an unwritten rule book that you are bound to follow?

Is it wrong to set boundaries?

Does it make you a bad person for setting them for your well-being?

These are the type of questions that come to one’s mind when we know that we need to set boundaries, as our situation may force us to do so.

But the main question that always seems to pop up in our minds is that “does it make me a bad person for having boundaries?”

But I would say that even though we feel that it’s wrong in our minds, it’s for our best.

Not everyone has this realization. Some figure it out early on in life, while others have trouble setting them for others. Sometimes, having boundaries can make you come off as a selfish person, and people will make sure that they know how you make them feel.

But since you have boundaries, you won’t be easily swayed by these ideas, and you will remain firm with the notion that you have created.

Why is setting boundaries necessary?

Generally, if a person wants us to give them respect, they implement certain boundaries that create a sense of authority so that we obey them, and in a way, we also hesitate to question their ways of doing things.

But this kind of setup generally happens in a work environment.

In our personal lives, one would be forced to set boundaries among colleagues, friends, and sometimes even family.

The idea of maintaining a boundary with a friend does seem unfair and also unnecessary at times, but there are many times when one would compromise on their own boundaries for the welfare of their friends.

Family can get too close and say that it’s fine to share everything, but one needs to know what information is best suited for each person in your life.

If saying “NO” makes you seem like a bad person, then so be it.

Basically, it’s knowing who to go for reassurance when you need it.

Whom to go for a serious and practical talk to. Over time, one understands this rhythm and gets used to it.

Boundaries are a give and take. You can’t expect someone to follow and respect your boundaries when you are just crossing their’s. You need to be firm with it and show no signs of compromise in times of uncertainty and difficulties.

Also, one needs to identify which people make you overstep your boundaries for their own benefit and make you feel uncomfortable — they need to be confronted at the earliest.

Personally, I do have this in the form of peer pressure where sometimes I’m afraid of confrontation and then end up doing things that I don’t even enjoy.

And I get it, sometimes due to lack of confidence, we are unable to do so, but over time, we need to slowly begin to implement these boundaries.

So we can start small, maybe by refusing to go to places you genuinely don’t want to visit.

It does seem like a small thing, but everything starts small, and it’s only when it becomes big and goes out of hand that we realize that it’s a bigger and more concerning factor.

So before things can escalate for the worst, learn to set your boundaries without feeling guilty for prioritizing your mental peace and well-being first.

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