💚Be Busy, Not Available.💚

Hey guys, welcome to our ⭐April⭐ blog post.

Today’s blog post is something that I have come to realise lately, and I want to talk about it for this month’s post.

So as the title says, “Be Busy. Not Available,” what I really mean by this is that you know how sometimes you keep changing your schedule for someone, rearranging your timetable for that someone.... and when it’s time for them to make changes, it just suddenly becomes impossible 😶. And then they make these lame excuses, and in the end, they never show up for you.

I always notice this for me personally—that I am always available. If my friends ask me to meet, I am always ready, you know, like I have nothing else to do 🤡. But if I suggest something, then suddenly people don’t have the time for that. And then I think, what am I doing different from them? What are they doing so much and what so little?

Oh—I’m just not a priority to them.

I understand once in a blue moon if change of plans happens and you don’t end up making time for each other—that’s totally fine 👍🏻. But if this turns into a habit, then it’s not fine, right?

Because let me get this one thing straight, okay—if my friend needs me, I am going to be there for them 💯. If I am not able to make it in person, I make sure I am available through my phone 📱. That’s what we have phones for—to be there and connect when we can’t meet in person.

But when it’s time for them to do that, it’s suddenly very, very difficult for them… 🤷🏻‍♀️ And then I realise that it’s about how available I am making myself.

If you feel the same way, then think about it—how available are you to others? Are you 24/7 available to them? ⏳

This is what I hate about this generation, to be honest. If you are too available, you are taken for granted 😐. But if you are busy, then suddenly people are like, what are you doing that is so busy? 👀

And we’re just a bunch of teenagers, college-going students. We don’t even have part-time jobs. So what excuse do we have to not show up? 🤔

But you know, I am a person who doesn’t give up easily. I will try and try and try 💭. But for how long will I try? I can’t keep making plans with a person when the person has clearly zero interest in meeting.

And then I started thinking—maybe it’s me. Maybe I am sharing things too much online. I am talking to this person daily on chat, we are exchanging memes 😂, so if something comes up, they’ll just tell me through chat. So is there really a point to meet?

But the answer is NO. ❌

I just hate the fact that you say we are friends, but at the same time you take zero initiative to plan anything. And I am not saying to plan something grand or anything that involves money. We can always just meet and talk, but I guess that’s too much to ask for, right?

It’s really sad when the people that you call "close" don’t really have time for you 💔. And it’s not like they don’t have time—they do. You see them posting with other friends. So somehow they have time, but they don’t have time for you. That clearly shows where you stand on their priority list.

And honestly, being busy is not an excuse 🚫.

Because here’s the thing—we are just college students right now. If you are struggling to make time for your close people at this age, then what will happen when you start working? When life actually gets busy? When you move countries? Are you still going to give excuses?

It doesn’t take much to send a message 📩. I am not saying you have to talk 24/7. But you just know when you are a priority to someone.

You know they are keepers when they show up for you without being asked, rather than when you have to keep begging for attention.

And the saddest part is that sometimes the people you don’t expect show up for you… and your close friends don’t.

The IRONY.

I feel that if you really care about someone, you will make time for them 🤍. There are 24 hours in a day—you can meet for one hour. It’s not going to drain the shit out of you.

And if you feel that you are asking for too much, you are not. This is the bare minimum.

You need to be setting standards even for your friends ⚖️. Don’t give me that “they have been my friends for so long” excuse. The longer you hold on, the more time you waste.

(I said what I said.)

Think about it this way—if I end my friendship with this person today, how many years of worthless friendship would I have avoided?

I could have found better friends.

When you feel that the friendship is over, just let it go. It will be hard, it will be painful, but you will get over it over time 🌙.

It’s better to have one friend who shows up for you always than having a bunch of friends that never show up for you.

There are also times when the person knows that something is off. They can see the shift in your behaviour, they know you’re pulling back. And even after knowing this, they are still not going to do anything about it.

Just remember—

If they can go hours without you, you can go days without them. 💛

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